This is a genuine question. I’m looking for audience participation here. But let me tell you why I’m thinking about it.
I’m a working mom. If you’ve read my blog you may have noticed. Being away from my daughter 40+ hours per week has caused me weekly existential crises of the mom-nature. My own mother worked from home the vast majority of my childhood and so, to me (to a degree) what makes a mother is presence. The fact that a mother is there, after everyone else leaves and when you need her most. When I had summers off I was at home with my parents (they both worked out of the home, but my father frequently traveled as well). I always knew my mom would be at home, available, present. My relationship with my daughter can’t revolve around presence though. That’s not something I can offer as much as I would like to. So, I’m here trying to step far enough away from my existential crises to understand what makes me a mother.
I keep asking myself, if someone else is with my child during the workweek, what makes me Mom? I know that in this modern time when the gender and family roles aren’t so strictly defined as they used to, I’m not the only mom asking myself this question. What makes a mother? I think some of the answers must be as old as the existence of mammals, but some of them might surprise us too.